F*ck Luck Bitches! by Branden Lanette

 

You've heard the phrase that you have to make your own luck, right? Branden Lanette is telling us all about it in her newest book, F*ck Luck, Bitches. Take a peek inside with this excerpt and then follow the tour for more. Best of luck entering the giveaway!

Is there such thing as luck?

Of course, there is. I for one want to get as lucky as I can.

I know what you’re thinking: Branden are you admitting your title is just a marketing device? Well, I am trying to sell books here people!

We all want to be lucky or get lucky. And if the hand of luck reaches down to help you climb the tree of success, take it. But if it doesn’t, f--- it. Climb the tree anyway.

Hope is not a strategy. Wishing is for singing crickets.

Most people think they need more luck. If this describes you, you’re got it backward: Luck needs you. Luck doesn’t show up—YOU show up.

Luck is waiting for you to show the-f-up. Now let me show you how.

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Back to That Lucky Penny

A family in New York picked up pennies and other coins dropped on sidewalks and put them in a jar. At the end of the year, they had $1,013.

How much lost money is lying around? No one knows. The U.S. Mint once estimated that as much as $3 billion in change ends up on sidewalks or slipping between sofa cushions. And let’s not even get started on printed bills.

The fact is, we step right over lost change every day without ever noticing. Why? Because we’re not looking for it. Our priorities and our attention are elsewhere.

When you start looking for pennies, you start seeing them everywhere.

If you really believe you will find a penny on the street, then you will. And when you do, hold the penny in your hand and yourself: Is this penny in my hand because of luck, or because I made a conscious decision to look for one?

You know the answer.

How many pennies (or quarters, or dollars) have you stepped over in your life because you didn’t tell your mind to look for them? How many opportunities have you missed for the same reason?

Look for bad luck, and sure as f--k, you’ll find some.

Look for good luck, and…

(…you can finish the sentence for yourself.)

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BRANDEN LANETTE doesn’t look like a typical author, but she has long ignored what she “should” do, say and look like. On her own at a very young age, Branden eventually found herself with the wrong guy, the wrong job, and a bleak future. The fairytale promised as a child never materialized.

Branden realized she wanted something different for her life and realized no one was going to do it for her. Prince charming wasn’t coming to save her—she’d have to save herself. Step by step, decision by decision, through major trials and tribulations, Branden learned how to turn heartbreak into happiness and self-judgment into inner joy.

In 2019, Branden had her first book published, “Once Upon a Time, Bitches” followed by two workbooks in 2020, “The Dream Big Bitches Vision Book” and “The Dream Big Bitches Weekly Goal Setting Journal.” In early 2021 she co-authored the book, “Smart Bitches Buy Bitcoin” and is now over the moon for this one, her fifth. Branden LaNette is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, coach, wife, and stay-at-home Mom.

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Website: BrandenLanette.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Branden.Lanette
Twitter: @Branden_Lanette
Instagram:@Brandenlanettel

Branden LaNette will be awarding a $10 Amazon or B/N GC to a randomly drawn winner via rafflecopter during the tour.

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What you may not know about Branden LaNette, author of Once Upon a Time Bitches #OUATB

When you're following your favorite authors online, you often get to know them somewhat through their posts and the persona that they put forth. But there's always something that you don't know and may be surprised to know. Today, author Branden LaNette is doing a little true confessions even beyond what she reveals in her book Once Upon a Time Bitches. Enjoy an excerpt as well and then follow the tour to learn even more!

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It’s hard to say things that people don’t know about you after putting yourself in a vulnerable spot and sharing so many private things as I did in the book. I went deep! So, to share more means I have to dig deeper. I want people to know that making a dream come true doesn’t mean there isn’t any more struggle, it doesn’t mean that it’s always easy for me to wake up every day and love the reflection staring back at me, it doesn’t mean that I don’t have to face tough situations.

I still get stuck. I still have doubt. I still question what comes next.

What I don’t do is give up.

That’s something I think is important for people to know. The journey never, ever gets easier. It gets different and you have to keep getting better There is not anyone out there, posting about a perfect life that’s telling the truth.

There is no such thing. At every level, I would think: “this is it. I can coast now” and that’s not what happens. So, I encourage you not to give up, those setbacks are necessary to make you stronger, and to appreciate every step of an incredible journey. I want people to remember that we are all human.

Once Upon a Time Bitches

That’s Branden on the cover. Yes, she has a boy’s name, a Mom bod, and her tattoos are not photoshopped. She doesn’t look like your typical author and she sure doesn’t look like the next self-help Instagram sweetheart.

However, besides being a wife, mom to six kids (plus others with fur), coach and business owner, Branden is the author of the new book, Once Upon a Time, Bitches. It’s a fast paced, in your face, expletive laced, nothing held back message to women everywhere: There is no magic fairytale, but if YOU work at it enough you can come pretty close to creating your version with a happily ever after.

But first, no more whining and no more damsel locked in a tower, bullsh*t. Is it possible to design a fairytale life? Control your destiny? Be the hero in your story? Branden thinks there is and she wants to help you.

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Success is different for everyone, clearly. Right now, with an 8-month-old baby in my arms as I type this, I define success as getting clothes onto both of us.

Success doesn’t have anything to do with your bank account, either. So don't think you can’t speak up in a meeting or approach someone with a business idea just because you think they’re “more successful” than you are. Fantastic Fran may be making $1 million per year and you’ve only got only $47.22 in the bank.

Your idea could be worth $10 million, maybe more, who knows? You’ll never know unless you speak up and take a chance.

Success also has nothing to do with followers, likes or clicks. And it sure as fuck isn’t about approval from friends and family.

Move the f on with that sh*t.

“Success” is what you say it is. It is waking up AF to be alive. Success is wearing your heart on the outside and sharing a gift with another human. Success is happiness in the things you do, not in the things you have.

Success isn’t ANYTHING anyone else tells you it is. It’s what you tell yourself it is. Which ultimately means that, if you’re taking my advice, you should ignore everything I just said success is and/or isn’t because, in the end, only you can define what in the fuck success is for you. Only you.

Only you.

Don’t let me or anyone else define what makes you happy. Your inner feelings define what success is, and your smile describes it to the world.

Fran thinks I am a hot mess, and she’s right. Karen thinks I’m a superstar, and she’s right, too. Neither of their opinions affect my definition. Neither of their judgements dulls my shine.

I know I’m a success because I have everything I’ve ever wanted, saggy boobs and all. I could do without some of the cellulite, but now we’re just nitpicking.

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About Branden LaNette

Branden LaNette doesn’t look like a typical author but she has long ignored what she “should” do, say and look like. On her own at a very young age, Branden eventually found herself with the wrong guy, the wrong job, and a bleak future. The fairytale she was promised as a child never materialized.

Finally, Branden decided that she wanted something different for her life, and realized no one was going to do it for her. Prince charming wasn’t coming to save her—she’d have to save herself.

Step by step, decision by decision, through major trials and tribulations that would stop most people in their tracks, Branden learned how to turn heartbreak into happiness and self-judgement into inner joy.

Today, Branden LaNette is an entrepreneur, coach, speaker, wife, and stay-at-home Mom to six C-section babies (ages 1-16) and way too many f-ing pets. Somehow, however, she manages to juggle all of this effortlessly (a blatant lie) while pushing her way through the kinds of fear and self-doubts that whisper within all of us (totally true) to achieve her goals. Her most recent dream come true is this book, one that is destined to have a major impact on millions of women across the globe (or at least nine people in Michigan.)

Through it all, she has found her happiness, her joy, and more importantly, her voice.

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Website: BrandenLanette.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Branden.Lanette

Twitter: @Branden_Lanette

Instagram: @Brandenlanettel

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The Single Girl's Guide to Conquering LA by Carla Roxanne

Have you ever dreamed of going out to LA? It can be quite tricky to make it on your own. But Carla Roxanne is here to give you a few tips on how to be successful. Welcome to the blurb blitz for The Single Girl's Guide to Conquering LA by Carla Roxanne. I have an excerpt for you to enjoy today before you download your own copy. And then there's a great giveaway at the end. Follow the tour for more excerpts and more chances to leave questions and comments for the author!

The Single Girl's Guide to Conquering LA

Los Angeles can be a tough place for a single girl, especially for those who come on their own from other cities or small towns, with no family or friends living in the state of California, let alone Los Angeles. Many young girls have stars in their eyes when they land in LA, hoping to make it big in acting, modeling, or music. Unfortunately, a large number of them fade into oblivion without anyone ever even knowing who they are because they lack guidance, assistance, funding, and most importantly, knowledge. Well, if you're a single girl and you have your sights set on living in the 'City of the Angels,' there are a few things you will need to know before you make the move. Whether you come to LA to become a star, or if you simply want to enjoy living in a place with great weather year-round, a beautiful coastline, and some of the best-looking, fittest people in the world, this guide book will help you navigate your way through La-La Land. It will help you avoid some of the pitfalls that many people before you have fallen prey to, and if you play your cards right, before you know it, you will be living a lifestyle which will make your family and friends green with envy.

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Los Angeles can be a tough place for a single girl, especially for those who come on their own from other cities or small towns, with no family or friends living in the state of California, let alone Los Angeles. Many young girls have stars in their eyes when they land in LA, hoping to make it big in acting, modeling, or music. Unfortunately, a large number of them fade into oblivion without anyone ever even knowing who they are because they lack guidance, assistance, funding, and most importantly, knowledge. Well, if you’re a single girl and you have your sights set on living in the ‘City of the Angels,’ there are a few things you will need to know before you make the move. Whether you come to LA to become a star, or if you simply want to enjoy living in a place with great weather year-round, a beautiful coastline, and some of the bestlooking, fittest people in the world, this guide book will help you navigate your way through La-La Land. It will help you avoid some of the pitfalls that many people before you have fallen prey to, and if you play your cards right, before you know it, you will be living a lifestyle which will make your family and friends green with envy.

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About Carla Roxanne

Carla Roxanne is a Senior Executive Assistant for one of the top insurance companies in the nation. She has spent many years in administration supporting and organizing some of the highest-ranking executives in Los Angeles. In her spare time, she writes poetry and short stories.

Blessed with the gift of the gab, she has the innate ability to draw people to her through her stories.

The Single Girl's Guide to Conquering LA is Carla's freshman project. Visit her website dramaqueenprod.com for details of her next book.

Born in White Plains, New York, Carla currently resides in Los Angeles, California.

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15-Minute Pause Soft Cover Book & Personalogy Game Giveaway Ends 12/21

The holiday season is here. And that means a lot more chaos and stress than usual. Why do we do this to ourselves? We seem to forget to take some time to ourselves, so that we can become our best selves. Use this book and game as a way to help remind you to take those 15 minutes at a time. Get a copy for yourself and some to share with other friends and family who could also use the reminder in their lives.

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Let Your Light Shine (The Guide to Living Your Authentic Life) by csBailey

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Let Your Light Shine

Tired of just surviving? Do you often wonder what your purpose is? Constantly experiencing setbacks and/or sadness? Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?

In “Let YOUR Light Shine – The Guide to Living YOUR Authentic Life”, csBailey takes you on a journey of self-discovery for thirty days straight – all to help you uncover who you really are, so you can live on purpose and experience true happiness.

Award-winning Brand Strategist and Transformational Speaker, csBailey shares how she went from helping hundreds of clients build their brands and find their “why”, to living authentically herself and regaining inner peace. Through stories, humor, and practical tips, she shows the way to anyone trying to find their purpose and live their authentic life. In these pages you’ll discover:

• How to avoid living a life of regret
• How living a life of service will change your entire life
• How to free yourself from negativity
• If you are a Dreamer or a Doer
• How to know an obstacle from an opportunity

With intention, attention, patience and heart, when you finish this guide, you will begin to live your authentic life. You’ll know exactly who you are, you will discover your purpose, and you will live a happier life. So, what are you waiting for? Don’t die with regret. Learn how to Let YOUR light shine!

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About csBailey

Innately talented and exceptionally driven, csBailey is a dominating force and respected authority in the dynamic fields of Branding, Marketing, and Transformational Speaking. csBailey is a magnetic personality and highly-sought-after resource for business owners, non-profit organizations and community leaders from all sectors looking to increase opportunity through authenticity. For over two decades, she has collaborated with and guided hundreds of successful business leaders, professionals, and individuals in translating theory into tangible bottom-line results. Currently, csBailey serves as the Founder + Chief Creative Officer of The Hustle Agency.

As a premier Keynote Speaker and Author, csBailey energizes people to meet the challenges of the world around them by discovering the authenticity within themselves. Having overcome more than her fair share of pain and suffering: growing up poor in public housing, domestic violence, molestation, a suicide attempt, alcohol/drug abuse, failed businesses, and so much more - csBailey's quintessential success story of sacrifice, hard work, and perseverance as well as the unique and charismatic way she communicates it, will inspire any audience. She skillfully weaves her compelling life story into the fabric of self-discovery and empowerment.

Through The Hustle Agency, Cheri provides superior Brand + Marketing services for an array of prominent clients. Previous clients, projects, and partnerships include:

Dick Gregory, Sidney Poitier, Patti Labelle, Charlie Mack, Bishop T.D. Jakes, Birmingham Civil Rights Institute, Queen of Ghana/GA State, the A.M.E. Church, the African-American Chamber of Commerce of Central PA, Alpha Kappa Alpha, African American Museum in Philadelphia, October Gallery, Beta Pi Boule, NAACP, and many others.

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* Selected as one of Philadelphia's Top 20 Marketing Leaders by the Greater Philadelphia Cultural Alliance

* Selected for a National Leadership Initiative for African American Museum professionals by the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute

csBailey's passion, energy, and unmitigated gall motivates audiences to step beyond their limitations and into their greatness. Her charisma, warmth and humor have transformed ordinary dreamers into extraordinary doers. Engage with csBailey today and Let Your Light Shine.

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The Principle of Oneness by Russell Anthony Gibbs

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The Principle of Oneness

A Practical Guide to Experiencing the Profound Unity of Everything

Self-Help, Spirituality

Date Published: May 2017

Publisher: WaveCloud Corporation

Winner of the 2017 Pinnacle Book Achievement Award for Best Book in Spiritual Self Help

The Principle of Oneness expounds on the first principle from the award winning and bestselling book, The Six Principles of Enlightenment and Meaning of Life and is the second in this series of eight books on enlightenment.

Many have said "We are all one" but what does that really mean? This practical guide helps you understand and experience the profound unity of everyone and everything. Author Russell Anthony Gibbs explains the science behind the connections of everything both physical matter and nonphysical energy. Gibbs supports his points with quotes from scientists, enlightened beings, spiritual leaders, philosophers and others. Great minds like Albert Einstein, Buddha, Aristotle, Rumi and Jesus all understood the profound Oneness of the Universe. Gibbs further clarifies some of the misconception about the Universe/God as well as explains how to live and experience the Principle of Oneness.

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The Six Principles of Enlightenment and Meaning of Life

Publisher: Espresso Wisdom

Published: March 2016

All enlightened beings, most founders of religions and many renowned scientists knew and understood the six principles of enlightenment. These universal truths have been written about, taught and discussed for thousands of years yet remain shrouded in mystery and misinterpretation. This book seeks to remove that shroud.

The Six Principles of Enlightenment and Meaning of Life is an intellectual and spiritual work that explains the six significant universal truths woven throughout science, religion and philosophy. These principles draw upon thousands of years of wisdom and are presented in a concise, accessible format. Each principle is defined and has an explanation on its application to life; they are further supported by quotes of wisdom from enlightened beings, philosophers, artists and scientists like Buddha, Albert Einstein, Rumi, Stephen Hawking and Jesus. Understanding the six principles then unlocks the meaning of life which is explained in the final chapter.

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About the Author

Award winning and bestselling author Russell Anthony Gibbs is a philosopher and spiritual seeker on a quest for enlightenment. His research into Baha’ism, Buddhism, Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism, Islam, Sufism and Taoism greatly influences his spiritual and philosophical perspective. He is also profoundly influenced by the information from two channeled entities, Seth and Abraham. He further incorporates quantum mechanics, physics and psychology as well as concepts from the works of Albert Einstein, Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud and Stephen Hawking.

Gibbs’s communication style is concise, intense and deep. He would rather express wisdom in brief, powerful quotes and concise paragraphs than in complicated, long-winded explanations. Espresso Wisdom is short, strong, rich insight. Like espresso coffee, it gives an intense jolt of enlightenment. Enlightenment is an awakening, and Espresso Wisdom is meant to help jumpstart you on your journey.

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Meet Tasher, the author and entrepreneur behind Divorced and Scared No More

Over the past several days, you have probably seen many excerpts and references to the Divorced and Scared No More series by Tasher, both on here and over at Uplifting Reads. She wrote the books to reach out to people who are going through a divorce and struggling to find their way again. Drawing on her own experience with her divorce after 26 years of years of marriage, she wants to let people know that they are not alone. Now, find out more about the woman behind the books. 

Welcome back, Tasher! Please tell us a bit more about yourself.

I was born in Flint, Michigan to Mary and Houston Asher. I have one older brother named C. Robert Asher. We lived on a farm in Linden, Michigan until she was in middle school. At which time my family moved to the suburbs of Flint so my parents could be closer to the factories they worked in. Mom worked for Chevrolet at the Metal Fab plant and Dad worked in Buick City on the North end.

Readers may not be aware that you have dyslexia, which can present its own challenges. What have you found your challenges to be?

I suffered from undiagnosed dyslexia until my high school teacher, Ms. Burdick recognized the symptoms and sent me for diagnoses. Ms. Burdick had a big impact forming my view of the reading disorder. She taught me how to use various strategies and techniques along with technical aids to help with the management of dyslexia. Within a short time, she taught me how it really was a gift that I just needed to learn to control. After learning to control my gift my grades quickly improved and I graduated Ainsworth high school with a scholarship. I attended Northwood University in Midland, Michigan graduated in four years with three degrees. Upon graduation I was hired by General Motors Corporation in their Memphis Zone. So I really don’t look at dyslexia as a challenge it is rather my gift.

What inspired you to start writing?

I have dyslexia and writing is something everyone told me I couldn’t do especially my ex. So after my divorced and with the encouragement of friends, family and my divorce attorney, I decided it was time to try.

So, you started with the Divorced and Scared No More series and also created a website. How did these come about?

I married my ex-husband on January 14, 1984 in Columbus, Mississippi. We had 3 children together. He was a pilot in the USAF and relocated from Columbus Mississippi to San Antonio Texas. At which time I decided to quit my job as a district manager for General Motors Parts Division and became a stay at home mother. Until, we divorced on our twenty sixth wedding anniversary January 14, 2010. After moving to Houston, I launched the website and became a frequent contributor to various online magazines. Along with co-author Tony Haynes published a 3 book series called ‘Divorced and Scared No More’. The main objective of this book was to help in dealing with a divorce. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC, was consulted as a technical advisor for the series.

What inspired the title?

The name of the series as a continuation of the website. The name for the website is to help people understand there is no reason to be scared post-divorce. Now is the time to make your life yours and do what you want. Create a life where you are in control and if you need help look to your higher power to forge the new life you will enjoy.

Into what genre does this book fit?

The series is for self-help in dealing with life after divorce.

How did you come up with the logo?

The logo for the website and books is a broken set of pilot wings. My ex-husband was a pilot and when they get their first set of wings in the USAF they break them in half and give one half to someone they love and the other half is thrown away. The point is those wings will never come together again. Just like our marriage after the divorce.

What can we find you doing when you are not writing?

My daughter and two grandchildren live in the Houston area by me and my spare time is enjoying watching the wee ones’ activities. My family is my world and I enjoy as much time with them as I can have.

What advice do you have for other writers?

No matter what your challenge is while writing stick with your passion. Do not listen to others that say you can’t…….if they say that to you think to yourself wanna bet! You can do anything you want to do but be prepared that you may have to work a little harder or find tools that can help you.

Thank you so much for your time!

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Taking a Look at Oneself Following Divorce Is Scary ~ an excerpt from Divorced & Scared No More!

Divorced & Scared No More! Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

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Understandably, self-reflection is scary. For most people, the root of this problem is usually a lack of self-awareness: we know ourselves too poorly. However, self-reflection is a must for those of us who have been through a divorce. We must learn from our mistakes and heal the wounds. The person we are today is the result of past events and decisions we have made. 

In order to move forward from a breakup, you must accept exactly what happened and acknowledge the part you played in it. It is very important to understand how the choices you made impacted the relationship. Recognizing your errors is the key to not repeating them. It is time to learn crucial lessons from your past relationship. 

Be honest with yourself throughout this part of the recovering process, but try not to harp on who is to blame or beat yourself up over your mistakes. As you look back on the relationship, you have an opportunity to learn more about yourself, how you relate to others, and the troubles you need to work with. 

If you have the ability to fairly analyze your own behavior, including the reasons why you picked your former partner, you will have the ability to see where you made poor choices, so you can learn and make better choices next time. 

It’s a good idea to decide to let go of the concepts of fear and failure. Life is made up of highs and lows, successful or not so successful events, and some that just leave you numb. Be prepared to accept these things as valuable lessons you pick up along your journey. These events might be easy experiences that you find yourself more than prepared to handle, just a turn or bump in the road. In some cases you may need to make a U-turn, but correcting the course of your life is never a failure. It is a new beginning that means you are trying and not quitting. As long as you don’t quit, you are on the road to success. 

Remember to love yourself and work at becoming settled with the person you are. It would help if, while you are looking in the mirror every morning when you wake up and every evening as you go to bed, you also tell yourself how much you like and love yourself and how good a person you are. You will never be able to survive your divorce and its aftermath, much less be ready to connect with another person, until you are comfortable with yourself, alone. 

Loving yourself is very important. So important it was once a law that every United States citizen had to love themselves. Not really, I just wanted to see if you would fall for it. But loving yourself is still very important. You are here to gain from struggle your higher standards for the living. Therefore, loving yourself should become one of your Personal Laws to elevate the quality of your life. What you whisper to yourself has the most power in your life. 

So now you may be asking, what helped me process my divorce so well?

When I was young, I remember most nights at my grandparents’ house going something like this: After dinner my father would start tapping his finger, and then my Uncle Rob would pick up some spoons and begin tapping along. Very quickly my Aunt Wanda would go get her guitar, and everyone would find something to play. The rest of the night would be spent singing, dancing, and laughing. My father’s dry humor interacting with my Uncle Reg’s slapstick was a guarantee for a sore belly (the good kind of sore) in the morning. 

Because my family always relied on humor and music to express our feelings, during my divorce and recovery I listened to empowering songs of hope. All I can say is that I am proud of the climb I made. Miley Cyrus recorded the song “The Climb” at just the right time for me. I sure do love GodWinks and how they randomly come in your life. 

The night before I moved out of our family home, my daughter, Baby Cakes, put on some music to start my playlist. In the empty dining room, my oldest son, Bucky, and youngest, Boo Boo, grabbed me and danced with me, telling me they knew “I Will Survive” (my adult children had more faith in me than I did). But I did realize I could survive, if not for me, then for them. And I was much stronger in their eyes than I felt at the time. 

Take the time to breathe in, breathe out, and decide what you want your future to hold. One moment, one breath, one second, and one step at a time, it will get better. You really cannot imagine what it will be like when you get to the other side. 

It’s your life and it is now your choice to live the way you want to. Divorce did not destroy you or any of us who are divorced unless we let it. Bon Jovi may not have been referring to divorce in his song “It’s My Life,” but this is what we have to do: live while we are alive and realize it is our choice where we go from here because now we can go where we want. 

Do not be scared or afraid: face your fears, dance in the rain, sing, laugh, smile, and throw those curtains open, saying out loud, “Good Morning, World.” If you want to eat seven tacos, there is nothing stopping you. If you want to go skydiving—well, there are actually some restrictions and classes, but do what’s required and go for it. If I can go through all this and come out better and happier, so can you. The choices you make are the beginning of the change.

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Thriving After Divorce: An Excerpt From Divorced & Scared No More! by Tasher & Tony Haynes

Divorced & Scared No More! Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

Read the excerpt:

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Oh my goodness, how did this happen? How did I get here?” Going through a divorce is never easy, and whether or not it was your idea, you need time to heal. It is very painful and hard enough if you were the one leaving, or even if you both agreed divorce was the best option. However, it can be more difficult if you didn’t see it coming. It can create a maelstrom of emotion. You might feel literally speechless or even hysterical because it is a heartbreaking and painful experience, leaving a family torn apart, confused, and angry. Children are hurt through the process, even if, in the end, it’s best for them, too. 

In the initial shock of a divorce, especially when you are caught off guard, your mind most often shields itself with denial to help you survive emotionally. Denial can temporarily help you soak up the initial trauma and the harsh feelings of betrayal, desperation, and rejection. You might be telling yourself, whether consciously or unconsciously, that it isn’t really happening. You may even try to convince yourself that your spouse was just bluffing, and you may avoid telling anyone your mate has left because you are still in utter disbelief. 

I know that feeling. You just want to get through the horrific pain that left you feeling as if you had everything inside of you ripped out. The pain is even more intense when you begin to try coping with your own suffering while still maintaining a sense of normalcy for your children.
The laundry is waiting to be done, bills need to be paid, your house needs to be cleaned, there’s work at the office, and your children need you. Getting through the day with all these responsibilities when you’re emotionally torn seems like an impossible feat. And then more bills need to be paid. (For more on the practical realities of life after divorce, see the second book in this series: Divorced and Scared No More! Practical Advice for the Newly Divorced.) 

Hurt and denial don’t do the laundry. They don’t pay the bills. They don’t clean your house. You still need to work, more than ever now, yet you need to be your very best at parenting at the same time. It’s a difficult balance, to say the least. 

Unfortunately, the world doesn’t stop turning just so you can grieve the end of your relationship. No matter how strong a person you are, a major change in life such as a divorce is bound to leave you staggering before you find your feet again. You need to believe in yourself and know this is definitely not the end of the road, that there is a long journey ahead, and that joy is still possible for you. 

Though it won’t happen overnight and probably won’t be as easy to do as it sounds, you will eventually shake the baggage from your past off your shoulders and move ahead full throttle. Everything is yours to handle alone now, but don’t shortchange yourself. You’ve probably been doing it all on your own anyway; now you’ve got to do it without a chunk of the income. So try—again easier said than done—but try to deal with issues head on. Keeping a roof over the kids’ heads and food in their tummies will always come first. Although it seems like money and career can’t wait, you can steal a little time from them. Prioritize! You will never need your skills in prioritizing as much as you need them now. 

Recognize also there will be times when you feel alone even in a room full of people. Realize the lonely feelings will not last forever, unless you let them. Take a moment and really think about it: you probably were alone before your ex-spouse physically left, and now you’re dealing with the reality of life without their presence. In some ways, it might be a relief—no more walking on eggshells. You can say whatever you want, whenever you want! You get the bed all to yourself and all the blankets to boot! It’s okay to be you and do the things you like. This is a major life change; time is your friend now. If you work on processing your feelings, time will help heal your wounds. Give yourself permission to accept this transitional period while you work on all the pieces of yourself.

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

"U" Come Before Your "X" ~ an excerpt from Divorced & Scared No More! by Tasher & Tony Haynes

Divorced & Scared No More! Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced

Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.

Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!

Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.

Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.

There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?

Read the excerpt:

The first and the foremost thing you need to learn is you now need to put yourself first. Now that you are single again, it is time for you to align what your mind knows and how you respond to it. You need to pull yourself out of the denial mode and tell yourself you are better off now without a marriage that was doing no good to you as a person. It is most likely there were many flaws in your broken relationship. After all, the marriage did end for a very good reason. 

It is time to kick your ex off the pedestal; the ex does not deserve to be there. You do! Think about your marriage for a few minutes and answer a few questions for me. Tell me again; how wonderful was your ex? Was your ex a thoughtful, precious person who put you and your relationship above everything else? Was your ex willing to swim through shark-infested waters to give you a glass of lemonade? This is an exaggeration, and no one should ever ask other people to put themselves in danger, but the point is, was your ex willing to do things they may not have liked in an effort to make you happy? 

Let’s face it: your ex-husband wasn’t Hercules. Your ex-wife wasn’t Venus. Sugar‑coating your life may make it taste sweeter for a while, but in the end, you’ll just have a spare tire and a heart condition more serious than a broken heart. Broken hearts heal. Take your ex-partner off the pedestal and climb up there yourself. Take my word for it—the view is nice from up here. Divorce can be like getting a new car; it hurts to give up the old one you thought was reliable, but now you have one you can absolutely rely on because you chose it yourself—and it comes with accessories. I have cupholders, music, and laughter in mine. They come standard on my new me. You deserve a pedestal with cup holders and a lot more. 

Often people are simply afraid of being alone and settle for a partner who is not fulfilling. Rather than accepting the reality that they may have settled in their relationship, people often choose to remember the good about the ex-partner and not the type of person their ex really was and now is. Any partner is better than no partner, right? (Hint: wrong. It might work for your spouse, but you’re not settling; you’re taking the upgraded version!) 

It is also very common for the party who was left to remember the good qualities but never the bad. Is your memory building your ex up into someone they really were not? Don’t look at the times when “X” was so wonderful to you, and how much “X” loved you, because the fact that your ex left proves that they were not the right person for you. You are better off without coldness in your life. If your ex was everything your memory is building them up to be, you would still be together. 

You might also wonder why your ex was not smart enough to hold onto you. If you are wearing rose‑colored glasses, now is the time to take them off. They may seem nice at first, but you look better in real sunglasses anyway. You are fantastic! You are your own priority, and you deserve the best. Obviously, your ex didn’t see you that way, but that view of you doesn’t mean you are flawed; it means your spouse wasn’t seeing you or accepting you for who you are. If your ex‑spouse was unable to handle your amazing qualities, it’s his or her loss. You don’t have to feel sorry for your ex. They either got what they felt they deserved, or what they truly deserved. Chances are, if they didn’t put in the hard work with you, they will fail at it again. Not your problem. 

Your problem is to make sure you know it was wrong to settle for your ex forgetting your birthday, leaving dishes in the sink, or leaving stinky clothes all over the house. Remember the month you went to help Aunt Martha and you came home to the deadest yard on the block because “X” forgot to water the flowers? Your garden is now abundant and fragrant. Why shouldn’t it be? If that’s what you work to achieve and value, you deserve to enjoy the fruits of your labor. 

If “U” have to, push “X” off of the pedestal and climb up there yourself—you’ll have a better view of what’s really happening in your life—and pushing your X off can be cathartic. Learn from the mistakes in your past relationship. Keep in mind that even in the alphabet, “U” comes before “X.” If it’s that way in the alphabet, you can follow suit and make it that way in your life, too!

Available in Paperback

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About Tasher 

Tasher was divorced on her 26th wedding anniversary, and she embarked on a new life. Her marriage was broken all to pieces, she was not going to let the divorce break her. Tasher quickly discovered that single life was very different from all those years ago. Like many, she initially was scared. Yet she was determined to become Divorce and Scared NO More!

Despite her dyslexia, she decided to share with others things she learned while rebuilding her life. The launch of DASNM.com quickly received a worldwide following. The logo was inspired by a set of broken pilot wings. No two people will have identical situations, hopefully the DASNM series will assist others with the least amount of trepidation, during this difficult transition.

Tasher is not a professional therapist, rather she is sharing because she has "been there and done that" understanding how it FEELS. Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt LSCSW, LAC consults as her technical advisor. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.